Say Your Own Vows – Personalized Wedding Vows

By | June 13, 2013

Your wedding is your own.  And in today’s society, people have been constantly sourcing for many ways to make their wedding as personal and as unique as possible.  One way to do this is to whip up your own wedding vows.


Traditionally, couples do not have much of a say in what goes into many of the words spoken during the wedding ceremony.  Today, many couples try to personalize their own wedding vows.


If you desire to make your wedding vows unique and personal, you are not alone.  Many other couples incorporate feelings, and intimate messages into their wedding vows.  It has an added effect of making your wedding more touching, dramatic, and memorable.


Talk with the Officiant Ahead of Time

If you would like to personalize your wedding vows, first notify your Officiant to find out the legalities, guidelines and rules in drafting your own wedding vows.  He or she will typically give pointers and examples to help you draw up your own vows.  Furthermore, the Officiant will inform you of the parts of the vow that are expected to be said.


The Topic

Your wedding vows may include promises for each other, such as “I will swear upon my life to do …” or it may be heartfelt messages for each other, or even plans for the future.  You may also opt to create a mixture of each to spice up your wedding vows.  Your wedding vows should be concise and yet meaningful. Since you have to recite it, it should be short and sweet.


Make it Official

After creating a draft of your wedding vows, it would be good to let the Officiant vet it.  Although in the end, it is ultimately your decision that is followed, do take heed of the Officiant’s advice, as it is usually sound and has been honed by experience.



It is a good idea to practice your vows before the wedding.  Although there is no rule against reading vows, a thoroughly practiced, heartfelt rendition of the vow will definitely make a lasting impact on your partner and the people witnessing the ceremony.  As mentioned earlier, avoid overly long vows as they tend to be less remembered and are harder to memorize.


The Performance

When reciting your vows during the wedding, always keep calm. People who are tense tend to speak too fast, and since the wedding vow is a very important part of the wedding, you will want to take your time in the spotlight.  Relax yourself, so that in case you forget a few lines during the exchange of vows, you will be able to express heartfelt words from your heart.  You may also keep a written version of your vows and read it surreptitiously though.


Good luck on your wedding, and may the sweet words you utter during the exchange of vows never lose their meaning for rest of your days!